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The Untrained Mind Equals an Untrained Man

In the world of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, we find a profound truth that extends far beyond the mats and into the realm of personal and professional development. It’s a truth that I’ve come to understand intimately through my years of practice, coaching, and exploring the depths of human potential. The notion that “The Untrained Mind Equals an Untrained Man” is not just a concept limited to the gentle art of Jiu-Jitsu; it’s a reflection of the broader human experience.

In Jiu-Jitsu, as in life, we often encounter situations where knowing something intellectually isn’t synonymous with the ability to execute it in practice. I’ve seen countless practitioners attend seminars or regular classes, absorbing techniques that make perfect sense on the surface. However, when the real test arrives during live training or sparring, the clarity of these techniques can vanish in the heat of the moment. This phenomenon teaches us a profound lesson about the limitations of the untrained mind.

It’s akin to the experience of working with someone new, often referred to as a white belt in Jiu-Jitsu. They come to the mat untrained, devoid of the technical skills and experience necessary to navigate the intricate dance of this martial art. Instead, they rely on brute strength, speed, adrenaline, and often, their ego to survive. It’s crucial to note that they’re not intentionally trying to be difficult or cause harm; they are simply untrained.

This concept holds a mirror to the broader scope of personal and professional development. How many times have we encountered individuals who are well-versed in theories, strategies, or principles, yet when it comes to real-life application, they flounder? It’s not uncommon to find people who have read numerous self-help books, attended workshops, and devoured wisdom, but their actions don’t align with their knowledge.

The untrained mind is like a white belt in life. It lacks the practical skills to defend itself against the challenges and uncertainties that come its way. When faced with adversity, it resorts to the same survival instincts we see in a novice on the Jiu-Jitsu mat. It’s an instinctual reaction born out of fear and insecurity.

So, what does this all mean, and how can we harness this insight to enhance our personal and professional lives? The key lies in the recognition of the untrained mind’s potential. It’s not a fixed state; rather, it’s a starting point. Like a white belt stepping onto the mat, we all begin with a lack of experience and skill. However, the difference lies in our commitment to growth and learning.

Just as the white belt can evolve into a black belt through dedication, practice, and a willingness to embrace the journey, so too can the untrained mind transform into a reservoir of knowledge, wisdom, and skill. It’s a process that requires humility, perseverance, and a genuine desire to learn. When we approach life with the same mindset we bring to the Jiu-Jitsu mat, we begin to unlock our true potential.

The untrained mind is not a limitation; it’s an opportunity. By acknowledging our untrained aspects and embracing the journey of learning and growth, we can transcend our limitations and become the best versions of ourselves. Just as a white belt becomes a black belt, our untrained minds can become a wellspring of knowledge, strength, and understanding.

In closing, let me leave you with this inquiry: What aspects of your life might benefit from the recognition that an untrained mind is not a hindrance, but a canvas upon which you can paint your journey of growth and self-improvement? Remember, the path to becoming a black belt in life begins with acknowledging the white belt within you.

A New Way To Think About Purpose

I attended an event this past weekend where there were 16 passionate speakers, many of them were TEDx speakers.

A majority of the speakers were pointing to the fact that if people don’t have a purpose they’re prone to loneliness, depression and a lack of meaning in their lives.

As I engaged with fellow participants, there was a  both a palatable anxiousness and/or excitement in people’s desire to find their purpose.

Like purpose is somehow the missing link to a high quality life experience.

You see the presenters made a logical and compelling presentation with regards to human suffering, and finding your purpose was offered as a prescription to living a better life than the one they are currently living.

Time to Reflect

So my question is,

Is it true people need to find and live their purpose in order to have a high quality life?

I would like to encourage you to explore purpose for yourself.

1. What does purpose look like to you?

2. What are your ideas about purpose?

3. What do all human being share in common when it comes to purpose?

And The Most Miserable People Are…

In my own personal experience along with my experience of working with hundreds and hundreds of people over the last 25 years.

What I’ve discovered is people in search of purpose or in the pursuit of happiness are some of the most miserable and anxious people I’ve ever met.

So here’s the problem as I see it, people have innocently made  purpose a thing.

Purpose is not a thing, it’s actually a feeling.

And it is this feeling that has the power to guide people through life, helping them navigate the up’s and down’s.

Here’s the real problem, human suffer and struggle and have a wide range of human experiences. This is true.

The problem is human beings don’t know the source of their experience.

And if they did they would stop looking outside of themselves for prescriptions to live a better life that alone would improve their quality of life.

Most people are looking at purpose as a prescription for living a better life.

Once they find their purpose, align with their purpose and live their purpose their life will be more rewarding and fulfilling is their logic.

The problem is that’s not how purpose and meaning actually works.

Looking for your purpose creates the same amount of anxiety as a lost set of car keys, it makes people really anxious and stressed out.

It also bums people out for the fact that they don’t know something or have lost something.

When people get bummed out they typically start to blame themselves or make themselves wrong for the fact that they’ve lost their car keys and in this case they have lost their purpose or their purposes has some how eluded them.

Finding, aligning, in living your purpose is not the solution to a low quality of life.

Looking In New Direction

What is necessary is understanding the human experience.

What matters most is to understand where your experience is actually coming from.

When people stop anxiously searching for their purpose but instead spend more time understanding the nature of life and the nature of the human experience what people often find is that their purpose finds them.

Natures Clue

I often share the following analogy with people about purpose.

Honey bees wake up every morning thinking that their purpose in life is to harvest nectar and make honey.

When in truth a honey bee’s greater purpose is at a 90 degree angle of their honey making intention.

You could say that the honey bees real purpose is to cross pollinate.

Human beings are like money bees. Waking up each day chasing the nectar of life to make money.

And if human beings would simply, stop, reflect and look in a new direction, they too would see that they are already part of a much greater purpose.

You already have a purpose but you just looking in the wrong direction.

I am on a mission to help people stop searching for things outside of themselves and commit to looking within as their primary goal in life.

Much love,

Greg Clowminzer
San Diego Business Coach
Helping business owners and professionals find the clarity, direction and motivation they’ve been looking for so they can enjoy a rewarding and profitable business.

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