The Mindfulness Communication Technique (MCT) is based on the execution of completed communication cycles.
Communication cycles are nothing new and have been around for long time. A completed communication cycle is what makes the MCT so powerful. MCT’s are basically a formal way of communicating and relating, so that these communication cycles can come to completion. With each completed communication cycle the mind is quieted. When the mind is clear, the mind is at peace and when the mind is at peace the world is at peace too.
Most of us have had the experience of a social encounter where you were asked a question, and before you could respond the other person interrupted you or started to ask you another question before you could answer. The result is an incomplete communications which then gets stored in your mind.
Or, perhaps you have tried to engage with someone by asking them a question about something, and they go completely off topic with some sort of novel monologue that’s irrelevant. You find yourself trying to listen and be present but are left bewildered by the tangents of the person’s response and communication. Again, incomplete communication cycles result in neither party feeling gotten or understood, and end up cluttering the mind.
By practicing MCT you are entering into a formal communicating and relating process that cleans up incomplete communication cycles, and clears the mind.
MCT is practiced with a partner for an agreed upon time. Most practices are in general either 30 or 40 minutes long.
The do’s and don’t of MCT
MCT is not a social conversation.
MCT is not a dialogue.
MCT is not about giving advice, coaching or counseling.
MCT is an opportunity for the speaking partner to practice authentic communication by communicating only what arises for the speaking partner as a result of their self-inquiry or contemplation. The speaking partner then communicates to the listening partner whatever arises in their consciousness as a result of the inquiry to their partner without adding anything or taking anything away.
MCT invites the speaking partner to communicate from their personal experience only.
MCT requires that the speaking partner refrain from referring to whatever their partner previously communicated.
MCT requires that the speaking partner refrain from using the word we, you, you know, you know what I mean, or anyone’s personal name. Instead use the words me, I, other or another. Some examples might be… what I am present to about myself is… or I feel another has treated me really unfair, and I am angered about that.
MCT is a meditation practice with the listening partner putting their 100% attention on their partner. If your mind starts to wander or you start thinking about what you are going to say next, just let it go and bring your attention back to your partner. This means good eye contact, and maintaining a strong connection to your partner. Refrain from fidgeting or drawing any attention to yourself.
MCT’s are an opportunity for the listener to practice open and non-judgmental listening. Listen without facial expressions, head nods, hand gestures or sounds.
MCT asks that the listening partner simply listen and understand to the best of their ability whatever your partner is trying to communicate. You are not to agree or disagree, or evaluate their communication or the content of their communication in anyway.
People are often surprised by how relaxed, clear and energized they feel after practicing MCT.
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