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Navigating Emotional Riptides: Embracing the Flow of Consciousness

As a coach, I’ve often pondered the nature of consciousness and its impact on our lives. Inspired by Sidney Banks’ insights in his book, The Missing Link, I’ve come to understand that as our consciousness descends, we can lose our feelings of love and understanding, plunging into a world of emptiness and despair. This realization led me to a profound insight: our consciousness, much like the weather, comes and goes. It’s an ever-changing landscape over which we have little control. Thus, there’s no need to take our bad feelings personally. They are temporary, fleeting, and not a reflection of our true selves.

This perspective has profoundly influenced my coaching practice. By recognizing that emotional states are transient, I’ve learned to approach my clients with greater empathy and compassion. Instead of rolling up my sleeves and trying to fix their emotional struggles or rescue them from their temporary despair, I strive to remain grounded and calm in the midst of their storms. I offer comfort and reassurance, reminding them that “this too shall pass.”

Imagine consciousness as an ocean, with emotions as its waves. Sometimes, we encounter riptides—strong currents of negativity and confusion. The natural instinct is to fight against these currents, to swim desperately toward the shore. But this often leads to exhaustion and overwhelm. Instead, I encourage my clients to swim parallel to the shore, navigating their way calmly until they reach safety. This metaphor beautifully encapsulates the essence of managing our emotional states.

In my practice, I invite clients to get comfortable being uncomfortable. It’s about embracing the challenge of getting better at feeling, rather than reacting impulsively or chasing fleeting moments of happiness. To truly grow, we need to improve our ability to experience emotions fully, without the constant need to feel better immediately. This shift in focus—getting better at feeling instead of trying to feel better—can be transformative.

When my clients adopt this mindset, they begin to see their emotional storms differently. They no longer view negative emotions as something to be feared or avoided but as natural parts of their human experience. This acceptance fosters resilience and self-awareness, helping them navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and confidence.

To integrate this philosophy into my coaching sessions, I employ various strategies and practices. Mindfulness exercises, for instance, help clients stay present with their emotions without judgment. Reflective journaling allows them to explore their feelings in depth, fostering a deeper understanding of their inner landscapes. Through guided visualizations, they learn to navigate their emotional riptides, finding calm amidst the chaos.

Ultimately, my goal is to empower my clients to recognize their inherent resilience and strength. By teaching them to embrace their emotions, I help them build a healthier relationship with their inner selves. They learn that it’s okay to feel discomfort, that these feelings are temporary, and that they have the capacity to weather any storm.

In embracing this perspective, we discover that our emotional riptides are not obstacles but opportunities for growth. They teach us to trust in the natural ebb and flow of our consciousness and to find peace amidst the turbulence. This journey, though challenging, leads to a deeper connection with ourselves and a more profound understanding of what it means to be human.

The Untrained Mind Equals an Untrained Man

In the world of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, we find a profound truth that extends far beyond the mats and into the realm of personal and professional development. It’s a truth that I’ve come to understand intimately through my years of practice, coaching, and exploring the depths of human potential. The notion that “The Untrained Mind Equals an Untrained Man” is not just a concept limited to the gentle art of Jiu-Jitsu; it’s a reflection of the broader human experience.

In Jiu-Jitsu, as in life, we often encounter situations where knowing something intellectually isn’t synonymous with the ability to execute it in practice. I’ve seen countless practitioners attend seminars or regular classes, absorbing techniques that make perfect sense on the surface. However, when the real test arrives during live training or sparring, the clarity of these techniques can vanish in the heat of the moment. This phenomenon teaches us a profound lesson about the limitations of the untrained mind.

It’s akin to the experience of working with someone new, often referred to as a white belt in Jiu-Jitsu. They come to the mat untrained, devoid of the technical skills and experience necessary to navigate the intricate dance of this martial art. Instead, they rely on brute strength, speed, adrenaline, and often, their ego to survive. It’s crucial to note that they’re not intentionally trying to be difficult or cause harm; they are simply untrained.

This concept holds a mirror to the broader scope of personal and professional development. How many times have we encountered individuals who are well-versed in theories, strategies, or principles, yet when it comes to real-life application, they flounder? It’s not uncommon to find people who have read numerous self-help books, attended workshops, and devoured wisdom, but their actions don’t align with their knowledge.

The untrained mind is like a white belt in life. It lacks the practical skills to defend itself against the challenges and uncertainties that come its way. When faced with adversity, it resorts to the same survival instincts we see in a novice on the Jiu-Jitsu mat. It’s an instinctual reaction born out of fear and insecurity.

So, what does this all mean, and how can we harness this insight to enhance our personal and professional lives? The key lies in the recognition of the untrained mind’s potential. It’s not a fixed state; rather, it’s a starting point. Like a white belt stepping onto the mat, we all begin with a lack of experience and skill. However, the difference lies in our commitment to growth and learning.

Just as the white belt can evolve into a black belt through dedication, practice, and a willingness to embrace the journey, so too can the untrained mind transform into a reservoir of knowledge, wisdom, and skill. It’s a process that requires humility, perseverance, and a genuine desire to learn. When we approach life with the same mindset we bring to the Jiu-Jitsu mat, we begin to unlock our true potential.

The untrained mind is not a limitation; it’s an opportunity. By acknowledging our untrained aspects and embracing the journey of learning and growth, we can transcend our limitations and become the best versions of ourselves. Just as a white belt becomes a black belt, our untrained minds can become a wellspring of knowledge, strength, and understanding.

In closing, let me leave you with this inquiry: What aspects of your life might benefit from the recognition that an untrained mind is not a hindrance, but a canvas upon which you can paint your journey of growth and self-improvement? Remember, the path to becoming a black belt in life begins with acknowledging the white belt within you.

Reorienting Around Your True Values: How Coaching Can Help You Navigate Life’s Transitions and Live with Purpose

Reorienting our lives around our deepest values can be challenging, but it is ultimately the key to living a life that is meaningful and fulfilling.  – Brené Brown

As we go through life, it is normal for our values to change and evolve. Sometimes, these changes are forced upon us by external circumstances, such as a major life event or a shift in societal norms. Other times, they arise through introspection and reflection on our own experiences and beliefs.

Regardless of the cause, adjusting to a new set of values can be a challenging and overwhelming process. It requires reorienting our perspective, reevaluating our goals, and often making significant changes in our habits and behaviors.

This is where coaching can be an invaluable resource for individuals making this type of transition. A coach can provide guidance and support as we navigate these changes, helping us to stay focused and committed to our new values, even in the face of obstacles or setbacks.

One of the key benefits of coaching is that it can help us to identify and clarify our new values. Sometimes, we may know that we want to make a change, but we may not be clear on what that change should be or how to get there. A coach can help us to explore our priorities and values, and to set goals that align with these values.

Coaching can also help us to stay accountable and motivated as we work towards our new values. Change can be difficult, and it is easy to fall back into old habits and ways of thinking. A coach can help us to stay on track, providing encouragement and support, and helping us to stay focused on the bigger picture.

In addition, coaching can help us to develop new skills and strategies that are aligned with our new values. For example, if we have decided that we want to prioritize our health and wellness, a coach can help us to develop a plan for exercise and nutrition that supports this goal. If we have decided that we want to prioritize our relationships, a coach can help us to develop communication skills and strategies that support positive connections with others.

Ultimately, coaching can be an essential tool for individuals who are navigating a transition in their values. Whether we are adjusting to a major life change or simply reflecting on our own beliefs and priorities, coaching can help us to stay focused, motivated, and committed to our new values, and to create a more fulfilling and meaningful life as a result.

Coaching Exercise:

    1. Reflect: Take some time to reflect on your current values and where you would like to be. Ask yourself questions like, “What are my top three values?” and “What would make me feel more fulfilled and purposeful in my life?”
    2. Identify Barriers: Identify any obstacles or challenges that are preventing you from living in alignment with your values. These could be external factors such as financial constraints or internal factors such as limiting beliefs.
    3. Set Goals: Set specific and achievable goals that align with your values. Be sure to make them realistic and measurable so that you can track your progress.
    4. Take Action: Take action towards your goals, even if it is just a small step every day. Celebrate your successes and learn from your setbacks.

If you are feeling stuck or unfulfilled in your life, it may be time to reevaluate your values and make some changes. This can be a difficult and overwhelming process, but you don’t have to do it alone. A coach can provide the guidance and support you need to navigate this transition and live a life that is aligned with your true values.

So, if you are ready to let go of old values that no longer serve you and honor the new values that are arising within you, I encourage you to reach out for coaching. A coach can help you to clarify your values, set goals that align with them, and develop the skills and strategies you need to make lasting changes in your life.

Remember, your values are a reflection of who you are and what matters most to you. By honoring them, you can create a life that is authentic, meaningful, and fulfilling. Don’t wait any longer to start living the life you truly desire. Reach out for coaching today and start your journey towards a more fulfilling and purposeful life.

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Busy vs Being

“Being busy is a form of laziness – lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.” – Tim Ferriss

I used to be someone who was always busy, constantly striving to get things done and achieve more. But everything changed when I had a near-death experience from a rock climbing accident. That accident left me confined to a wheelchair for 5 1/2 months, unable to do much except just be.

During those long months of recovery, I realized the importance of slowing down and taking time to just be. I had no choice but to be patient and let my body heal, and in that process, I learned the true value of being present in the moment and appreciating the simple things in life.

As I gradually recovered and regained my strength, I realized that I no longer wanted to be busy for the sake of being busy. I wanted to prioritize my health, happiness, and well-being, and to focus on doing things that brought me joy and fulfillment.

I started to take time for myself, to slow down and enjoy the little things in life. I prioritized self-care and spending time with loved ones, and I found that this made all the difference in my life. I was able to be more productive and effective in everything that I did, and I felt happier and more fulfilled than ever before.

That rock climbing accident was a turning point in my life, and it taught me a valuable lesson: that being busy isn’t the same as being productive or fulfilled. It’s important to take time to just be, to appreciate the present moment, and to prioritize the things that truly matter. And I’m grateful for that experience, as it helped me to become the person that I am today.

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10 Proven Strategies for Attracting and Hiring Top Talent: Stand Out in the Competitive World of Recruiting

Hire people who are passionate about what you do, not just passionate about the job.  -Simon Sinek

Hiring top talent is essential for any organization looking to succeed in today’s competitive business landscape. However, finding and attracting the best candidates can be a challenging task. Here are 10 strategies that organizations can use to hire top talent:

    1. Define the role clearly: Before you start the hiring process, make sure you have a clear understanding of the role you are looking to fill. This includes the specific skills and qualifications required, as well as the personality traits and cultural fit that will be necessary for the candidate to thrive in your organization.
    2. Leverage your employee network: Your current employees can be a valuable resource when it comes to finding top talent. Encourage them to share job openings with their professional networks, and offer incentives for referrals that lead to successful hires.
    3. Use social media: Social media platforms like LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook can be powerful tools for reaching a wide pool of potential candidates. Use them to showcase your company culture and values, and to engage with potential hires.
    4. Host an event: Consider hosting an event, such as a job fair or networking event, to attract top talent. This can be a great way to meet potential hires in person and to showcase your company culture.
    5. Focus on company culture: One of the most important aspects of attracting top talent is making sure that your company culture is aligned with the values and goals of the candidates you are trying to attract. Make sure your company’s mission, values and culture is clear and communicated throughout the hiring process.
    6. Offer competitive compensation and benefits: Top talent is often looking for more than just a paycheck. Make sure you are offering competitive compensation and benefits packages that will attract the best candidates.
    7. Make the process as smooth as possible: Make sure the hiring process is as smooth and efficient as possible. This includes everything from initial application to the final interview.
    8. Keep an open mind: When looking for top talent, don’t limit yourself to traditional sources. Be open to candidates from diverse backgrounds and industries, and consider candidates with non-traditional education or work experiences.
    9. Be transparent: Be transparent about the hiring process and the expectations for the role. This will help candidates understand what they can expect and will also make it easier for you to identify the best fit.
    10. Keep in touch: Even if you don’t end up hiring a candidate, keep in touch with them. They may be a good fit for a future role, or they may be able to refer you to other top talent.

By following these strategies, organizations can increase their chances of finding and hiring top talent. Remember that hiring the right people is crucial for the success of any organization, and that it’s worth investing the time and resources to find the best candidates.

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20 Questions That Both Coach and Client Should Be Asking

Asking questions can help the coach to understand the client’s progress, challenges, and needs, and to provide appropriate guidance, support, and resources to help them reach their goals.

Weekly reflection is important because it allows individuals to take a step back and assess their progress and accomplishments over the past week. This can help them identify areas where they have been successful and areas where they need to improve. Reflecting on one’s past performance can also help individuals set goals for the coming week and develop a plan to achieve them.

      1. What did you accomplish this week towards your goals?
      2. What obstacles did you face and how did you overcome them?
      3. What are your priorities for next week?
      4. What support or resources do you need to achieve your goals?
      5. What did you learn this week?
      6. What did you enjoy most this week?
      7. What did you find challenging this week?
      8. How are you feeling about your progress?
      9. How are you feeling about your business/career overall?
      10. What are your current stressors or concerns?
      11. What are your current wins or successes?
      12. What are you currently working on?
      13. Are you on track to achieve your goals?
      14. What do you need to improve on?
      15. Are there any areas where you are stuck?
      16. What is your next step?
      17. What are your current priorities?
      18. Are you getting the support you need?
      19. What are you most excited about?
      20. What are you most worried about?

Coaching questions can be a helpful tool for guiding the reflection process. These are open-ended questions that are designed to help individuals explore their thoughts and feelings about a particular topic. Some examples of coaching questions include: “What did you learn this week?”, “What did you do well?”, “What would you do differently next time?”, and “What are you proud of?”. These questions can help individuals gain insight into their thoughts and behaviors, and can also help them identify areas for improvement.

If you’re interested in exploring the possibility of working with a business coach, I’d be happy to schedule a complimentary consultation to discuss your goals and how I can help you achieve them.

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Resilience and Life After Layoff

Resilience is the ability to bounce back after experiencing difficult or traumatic events. Losing a job can certainly be considered a difficult and traumatic event, and building resilience can be especially important for those who have been laid off. Life after a layoff can be challenging, but with resilience, individuals can find ways to move forward and even thrive.

One key aspect of resilience is having a positive attitude. Even in the face of adversity, individuals who are resilient tend to maintain a sense of hope and optimism. This can be especially important after a layoff, as it can be easy to become discouraged and lose motivation. Having a positive attitude can help individuals stay focused on their goals and keep searching for new opportunities.

Another important aspect of resilience is the ability to adapt to change. After a layoff, individuals may need to learn new skills, find new job opportunities, or even change careers. Being adaptable and open to new possibilities can help individuals navigate these changes and find success in new roles.

Social support can also play a key role in building resilience after a layoff. Having friends and family who are supportive and understanding can provide a sense of emotional security during a difficult time. Additionally, connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences can help individuals feel less alone and provide valuable advice and insights.

Self-care is also important in building resilience. After a layoff, individuals may be dealing with stress and anxiety, which can take a toll on their physical and mental well-being. Engaging in self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies can help individuals cope with stress and maintain a sense of balance in their lives.

In conclusion, resilience is an important skill to have, especially after a layoff. By maintaining a positive attitude, being adaptable, seeking out social support, and practicing self-care, individuals can find ways to move forward and thrive after a layoff. Remember even if it is difficult, the situation is not permanent, and with time and hard work, things can get better.

Use your coach to assist you with:

Understanding job loss and its effects

    • Understanding the emotional and psychological impact of job loss
    • Identifying and addressing negative thoughts and feelings
    • Exploring the various stages of grief related to job loss
    • Developing a positive mindset

Developing Job search skills

    • Creating a professional resume and cover letter
    • Networking strategies
    • Understanding the job market trends and outlook
    • Interview preparation and practice
    • Online and offline job searching techniques
    • Identifying target companies and roles

Career transition and new opportunities

    • Assessing personal strengths and areas for improvement
    • Identifying transferable skills
    • Exploring new career options
    • Researching and assessing potential new career paths
    • Identifying educational and training opportunities

Building resilience and self-care

    • Developing a self-care plan
    • Stress management techniques
    • Setting and achieving realistic goals
    • Building a support network
    • Managing uncertainty and dealing with setbacks
    • Managing the career transition emotionally

Review and Action Plan

    • Reviewing progress and achievements
    • Identifying areas for improvement
    • Setting action plans to reach goals
    • Reviewing strategies for long-term job search success
    • Use your coach for ongoing support and career advancement

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State of Mind: Productivity Link

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes.  – William James, an American philosopher and psychologist

There is a strong link between a person’s state of mind and their productivity. A positive state of mind, characterized by feelings of happiness, enthusiasm, and motivation, can lead to increased productivity, creativity, and better decision-making. On the other hand, a negative state of mind, characterized by feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression, can lead to decreased productivity, a lack of motivation, and difficulty with decision-making. Factors such as sleep, physical exercise, and a healthy diet can all contribute to a positive state of mind, which in turn can lead to increased productivity. In contrast, factors such as prolonged stress, poor sleep, and poor nutrition can all contribute to a negative state of mind and decreased productivity.

Coach Greg is a registered Three Principles practitioner who shares the Three Principles understanding, which teaches that a person’s state of mind is shaped by their understanding of three universal principles: Mind, Consciousness and Thought. According to Coach Greg, these principles underlie all human experience, and by understanding them, a person can gain insight into their own thoughts and emotions and improve their state of mind.

The principle of Mind is the understanding that a person’s mind and body are interconnected, and that the mind influences the body, and vice versa. This principle suggests that when a person’s mind is healthy and positive, their body will also be healthy and positive, and when the mind is unhealthy and negative, the body will be too.

The principle of Consciousness is the understanding that a person’s thoughts and emotions come from their own consciousness, and that they have the power to control them. This principle suggests that when a person is aware of their thoughts and emotions and can control them, they will have a positive state of mind and when person is unaware of their thoughts and emotions, or can’t control them, they will have a negative state of mind.

The principle of Thought is the understanding that thoughts and emotions are temporary mental events, and that they come and go like waves. This principle suggests that when a person can observe their thoughts and emotions without getting caught up in them, they will be able to maintain a positive state of mind and when a person gets caught up in their thoughts and emotions, they will have a negative state of mind.

So, By understanding these three principles, a person can gain insight into their own thoughts and emotions and begin to take control of them. They can learn to recognize the connections between their mind and body, to become aware of their thoughts and emotions and to observe them without getting caught up in them. This can help them to achieve a positive state of mind and improve their productivity.

A three principles practitioner helps an individual understand the 3 principles and experience a more positive state of mind by:

A practitioner of the Three Principles understanding typically helps an individual understand the principles by first explaining the concepts, and then guiding the person through exercises and discussions designed to help them gain insight into their own thoughts and emotions.

The practitioner will first explain the principle of Mind, Consciousness, and Thought, and how they underlie all human experience. They will then help the individual to observe their own thoughts and emotions and to recognize the connections between their mind and body. This might involve exercises such as mindfulness meditation or journaling.

Next, the practitioner will help the individual to become aware of their thoughts and emotions and to understand how they are created by their own consciousness. This might involve exercises such as visualization or self-reflection.

Finally, the practitioner will help the individual to observe their thoughts and emotions without getting caught up in them. This might involve exercises such as detachment and self-observation.

Throughout the process, the practitioner will use a supportive and non-judgmental approach and will encourage the individual to discuss their experiences, insights, and understanding of the principles.

The goal of the practitioner is to help the individual to understand the Three Principles, and how they shape their own thoughts, emotions and the experience of the reality. By understanding these principles, the individual can begin to take control of their thoughts and emotions and to develop a positive state of mind.

By practicing these principles and gaining insights, the individual can experience less stress, greater emotional stability, and increased productivity, which can lead to a more positive state of mind.

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts, emotions, and state of mind? Want to unlock your true potential and transform your professional and personal life? Then take the first step and learn more about the Three Principles!

By understanding the principles of Mind, Consciousness, and Thought, you can gain insight into your own thoughts and emotions and begin to take control of them. You’ll learn how to recognize the connections between your mind and body, to become aware of your thoughts and emotions, and to observe them without getting caught up in them.

Don’t wait any longer, take action today and learn more about the Three Principles! Book a free consultation today. By taking this step, you will gain the tools and knowledge to develop a positive state of mind and improve your productivity. Don’t miss this opportunity, Schedule a free call today!