People think they know what they want and they think they know what they’re trying to accomplish, but often they don’t.
As a coach, one of my jobs is to help people get clear about what they want and what they are trying to accomplish.
You’d think that my job was pretty easy, straight forward and simple, right?
Here’s the problem, people THINK they know what they want. People THINK they know what they are trying to accomplish.
But, I gotta tell you people don’t know either and it becomes painfully obvious to witness people struggling to answer two simple questions.
- What do you really want?
- What are you trying to accomplish?
So, when I ask these two questions of both prospective clients and existing clients, it amazes me how difficult this is for people. People are like deers looking into head lights.
A big part of what makes coaching powerful is asking people reflective questions. Reflective questions are what help people wake up to what they really want.
Reflection is the key to clarity and often requires the help of another.
Here’s what I’ve discovered when asking people what they really want, people are often like deer looking into headlights with many of them responding with “I really don’t know”.
Okay, that’s a problem.
Now, I had an insight recently that there actually needs to be a question before the first two questions.
It’s what I call question zero.
0. Do you know what you want?
Okay, now you’re either going to say yes or no, and if you say yes, I’m going to say, great, tell me what you want.
I want people to see the fact that they think they know what they want, they think they know what they’re trying to accomplish, but they don’t.
Lack of clarity is a huge problem for people but critical when running a business.
Here is a simple reflective practice that will help you gain the clarity you’ve been looking for.
The Clarity Process
Ask yourself these two questions over and over again for a minimum of 15 minutes.
- What am I trying to accomplish?
2. What is standing in the way of me accomplishing that?
3. Repeat 1 and 2 Continue for minimum of 15 minutes.
You can do this in a journal but it’s a 100 times more powerful to do it with a friend or your coach.
This reflective practices will help you cut through the noise and start focusing on what really matters, waking you up to clarity, direction and motivation.
Greg (Clarity Coach) Clowminzer
San Diego Business Coach
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