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A 3 Principles Based Conversation

San Diego Business and Life Coach Greg Clowminzer has a 3 Principles based conversation with Joy Avila.

In this video I wanted to demonstrate how to integrate the 3 Principles into what appears to be just an ordinary conversation to assist both the participate Joy Avila as well as the viewer into the nature of the 3 Principles and how they are always at work underneath the human experience.

Rules of Engagement – The Basics for Effective Communication

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. -George Bernard Shaw

Your Guide To Being A Better Communicator and Listener

Being a better communicator and listener begins with a commitment to peace, love and understanding.

I believe that much of the suffering in the world could be reduced if people would simply adhere to what I call, Rules of Engagement – The basics of effective communication.

I have put together the following list of ways to show up in a conversation that allows for true understanding to occur.

Although many of the skills seem obvious, it takes practice and a real commitment to adhere to them.

• See communication as an opportunity and a gift rather than a challenge or threat.
• Communication improves when you slow down.
• Don’t interrupt when someone is speaking.
• Don’t criticize, judge or make someone wrong.
• Listen to understand versus reply.
• Maintain good eye contact when possible.
• Be an open and nonjudgmental listener.
• Speak in “I” statements.
• Avoid he said, she said.
• Only share your deepest truth.
• Be able to distinguish facts from judgments, opinions, assumptions and feelings.
• Eliminate gossip.
• Be direct and ask for what you want.
• Practice a high quality of attention when listening.
• Practice self-awareness before speaking.
• If you don’t understand something ask for clarification.
• Acknowledge the speaker.
• Be generous with your listening.
• Let others speak first.
• Set aside preconceived ideas.
• Understand the subject that you are communicating about. Don’t wander off-topic or subject.
• Welcome all thoughts, feelings and insights without invalidating.
• Become comfortable with silence and pregnant pauses.
• Ask a well thought out question, wait and listen.
• Go deeper with one question.
• Refrain from interrogating.
• Commit to getting yourself understood to the best of your ability.
• Own your judgments, feelings and reactions as your stuff, don’t make it about someone else.
• Reduce or eliminate self referencing.
• Be present to what’s arising in your own consciousness and communicate that.
• Receive and release another’s communication.
• Avoid trip laying.
• Ask, don’t tell.
• Get permission before offering feedback, coaching or advice.

Every relationship issues boils down to a lack of understanding.

And a lack of understanding is very costly in both the workplace and home life.

Please share this guide for effective communication with friends, family, and co-workers.

Become a Better Communicator By Working With Coach Greg

I offer communication training for couples, business partners and organizations who want to strengthen key relationships.

Greg Clowminzer
Communication Coach

PS Here are few ways I can help you.

1. Request a free Communication Coaching Consultation and have a heart to heart about what’s possible for you and the people you care about. Book a call here.

2. Join my FaceBook Page where I host Live Trainings and Q&A events where you can ask me anythings.

3. Attend my next 3 Day Coaching Immersion Programs where I teach the single most important thing you need to know  to achieve the highest levels of performance and well-being.

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